Up Close and (un)Conventional Romance Heroes
Welcome to this week’s Up Close and (un)Conventional. This is where I discuss both things that have to do with reading and blogging, and things that just have to do with life in general. This week, I’m thinking about romance heroes. Or the romance anti-hero. Or the incredibly alpha-hero that I love reading about, and that I cheer on when it comes to the heroine, but that I wouldn’t want in my life in the real world. I’m sure you’ve met him (or them, as the case may be) as well, no? If you read romances, it’s almost impossible to not have met an alpha hero who is the take-charge kind of guy. The one who will make decisions – even sometimes ordering food for the heroine. (Blasphemy!! Let me order my own faves, even if you think you know what I want!) Most of the times, when I’m reading this kind of makes me chuckle, and then I just continue.
Would a romance hero like that work for me in real life? Not a chance! I am very independent, and while I have been married for over 20 years, and have to make a lot of decisions with my husband, there’s no way he’d try to order my food for me. Or tell me stuff in that haughty tone romance heroes sometimes do and not be in BIG trouble. (Big, huge!! trouble!) And I’ve been thinking about why it is that I can accept those high-handed males and even sometimes find them sexy and endearing in my books. When I would possibly scream and run in the other direction if a man treated <i>me</i> like that.
My conclusion is that romance heroes – like any other hero or heroine I read about – is fictional. And while there are some things I really want to be realistic in my books, that is not one of them. I think the barrier of being able to actually close the book and shut the guy up if he grates on my nerves is a big plus, too. And while I’m independent and can rely on myself in the real world, I think part of the dream in a romance is to have someone who could truly take care of me in every way. Cuddle me, make sure I’m feeling the best I can feel, feed me, just take away all the things I have to make decisions on in real life. Because, let’s face it, life can be hard, and tough decisions have to be made, and sometimes, it’s really difficult to even find the time to be romantic at all. So those few hours of escape with one of the take-charge romance heroes is just what I need every now and then.
What about you? Are you more accepting of fictional characters than people you know in the real world, or do you want the characters you meet to act the way you’d want your friends to act?